A Daily Mantra for Well-being
There are times in your life when you lose the plot. You forget how wonderful you are and how amazing life is.
This can be for a short time while faced with a specific challenge, suffering the winter blues, or losing your way with regards to career and purpose…. or it might be for a much longer time, it might have become ‘routine’, it might feel like you can’t snap out of it or pull yourself up out of the black hole of despair and self-loathing.
Sometimes the journey through menopause might be the catalyst for such thoughts and feelings, for beginning to doubt everything and wondering what’s next, or the on-set of health issues that are not straight forward to resolve.
This is when you literally have to re-set yourself. Re-set how you talk to yourself, get control of your mind again, work consciously and consistently on the feel-good vibes and positive affirmations.
It’s like we are born perfect with regards to how we think about ourselves and the world around us. Then over time and through experiences – hard knocks, harsh words, perceived failures – little by little we subtract from ourselves. Doubt, comparisons, wishing that we looked different, were smarter, made better choices, had better health…. they eat away at our self-esteem and eventually the way we think about ourselves is altered. Then the way we internally speak to ourselves reflects how we are feeling (and in the way of all vicious circles, it then dictates how we continue to feel).
The trick is in consciously interrupting this pattern. You will probably need to attack it on many fronts:-
Exercise is always helpful for self-esteem and feel-good vibes. It shuts down the mind while the body is going through its paces, nourishes your insides with deep breathing, boosts your metabolism and gives you a sense of achievement (and of having taken control) when you are done.
Getting out in nature re-sets back to basics, back to the beauty around us and outside of our own internal conversations and worries. It brings a sense of calm, of being a small piece in a rather large jigsaw, as well as a sense of survival through the seasons and of how life really does go on.
Eating healthily, making a decision to nourish and heal with food will also give you a sense of taking steps to get back control. Looking after yourself, rather than unconsciously sabotaging your health because you don’t feel good about who you are, is a big step on the path to overall wellness. Caring enough about yourself to say “I deserve to live well”, and following through on it with your food and drink choices, can stop the ‘negative chat’ in its tracks.
Meditation, time out to relax, unwind and do nothing (stop pushing to achieve, gain, win, earn and succeed – all the supposed ‘perfects’ that we come to believe are the holy grail of life’s purpose and representative of who we are/have become). Learning to sit quietly and making peace with ourselves in the moment, re-setting back to a simpler view of how life should be…. perhaps finding the courage to make changes, to go after your dreams or act on your passions.
There’s no shame in losing your way. Most people do at some point in their lives. It’s hard to go through all of this without questioning or feeling overwhelmed at times. There’s so much pressure from every angle, it can feel like you are being squeezed to fit a certain shaped box, that the essence of YOU has been diluted and drained until you are no longer sure who you are… on the other hand though, you do have a very clear picture of who you are NOT, who you may NEVER be and what you might never have! This is what needs to be reversed….
One of the things that you need to remember is that you can let the pressures pass you by if you choose to. You can decide what is important to you, what you consider as the marks of a good person, a good life, a time well spent. You can fence off a little corner of the big wide universe to be ‘your world’ and in it you can have what matters to you, and ignore all the stuff that throws you off balance. You don’t have to take on everything nor spread yourself too thin. Scaling down and simplifying are wonderful ways to clear the clutter and drive out the unnecessary. And who knows, you may find that real self-esteem and true self-love come from being successful in a totally different way than you had imagined…. that being thankful for the everyday simple pleasures of life might bring a contentment like no other.
But first, to start the re-set process you may need to have a good old talking to yourself!
No, not another rant session in which you describe all your shortcomings and basically berate yourself for being a failure and a lost cause. You need to arm yourself with a daily mantra (or three) that become your new positive, life affirming self talk. The kind of talk that says you are already perfect…. as well as perfectly content, perfectly capable, that you have the power to make change and the knowledge to deal with whatever comes your way. The kind of talk that reminds you that you are lovable, and loved. A mantra that sets the scene for the day when you wake up, and a mantra full of gratitude to send you peacefully off to slumber at the end the day.
There are no rules, except that it has to be the sentiments that work for you. Chose the phrases that deal to your habitual misguided thinking and critical self talk, and/or encourage you along the path that you wish to take.
The moment you acknowledge your own love for yourself you will naturally begin to start taking better care of yourself.
There is a wonderful book by Louise Hay (well, all of her books are wonderful in their own right)… but I particularly enjoyed and was inspired by ‘You Can Heal Your Life’ at a time when I needed a re-set of my own. These days I leave it sitting on my bedside table so that I can open it and read a mantra when I wake up, as a no-thought required kind of way to start the day with the right mind work. Once you have read this book and used the mantras you will find that there is a real calm that comes over you when you read or hear the phrase “all is well in my world”. I use it often, especially at work if I feel a bit stressed or in my emotional life if I feel a tad sad or anxious. Mantras don’t have to be long winded; these small phrases can cover a lot of ground and invoke a substantial bodily response or charge. If it works for you, it’s just right!
Here’s an example of one of Louise’s mantras that I particularly enjoy from ‘You Can Heal Your Life’ –
In the infinity of life where I am,
all is perfect, whole, and complete.
I accept health as the natural state
of my being. I now consciously release
any mental patterns within me
that could express as dis-ease in any way.
I love and approve of myself.
I love and approve of my body.
I feed it nourishing foods and beverages.
I exercise it in ways that are fun.
I recognise my body as a wondrous
and magnificent machine, and I feel
privileged to live in it. I love lots of energy.
All is well in my world.
It seems to me that these little mantras go straight to the place that we have buried, or that just got buried by all the ‘rubbish’ of life that piles up and means we cannot easily access that original ‘perfect’ place full of knowing, trusting, loving, believing and simply being. It’s like a direct pipeline back into this well of certainty, contentment and safety. And the well is overflowing. The mind immediately recognises it as the true self and dives right in!
Louise says “I expect my life to be good and joyous, and it is.”
If you have suffered from adversity, lost your way, or life feels like it has lost its spark, you can talk your way back to a loving and peaceful place. As with anything, it’s about consistency and belief. Determine the mantras that resonate with you, then use them every day… it only takes a minute or two to re-set daily, then before you know it you are thinking and feeling better, and you are noticing a change in fortune with regards to what is manifesting in your world. Read some books to get inspired. Here’s some recommendations –
Find Your Happy Daily Mantras (by Shannon Kaiser)
The Little Book of Mindfulness (by Dr Patrizia Collard)
Flip the Script (by Bill Wackermann)
Modern Magic (by Kirsten Riddle)
Change Your Thinking (by Sarah Edleman)
You Can Heal Your Life (by Louise Hay)
Self-healing (by Louise Hay) – an audio program of positive affirmations created and narrated by Louise
The Journey from Abandonment to Healing (by Susan Anderson)
Excuse Me, Your Life is Waiting (by Lynn Grabhorn)
Life Loves You (by Louise Hay and Robert Holden)
When I was recovering from Chronic Fatigue Syndrome and found the usual tricks I employed to spark myself up and feel good about life were not working, I began with reading some of these inspirational books. It was slow going, as I couldn’t read for long periods. I found that the short, sharp quotes and mantras were easy to read and remember, so I started using them daily. I created my own also, and saying them began to take me to my happy place…. and more importantly a place where I believed that I got better in some way every day. A sense of knowing you are on the right path back to health is essential to actually getting there. What the mind believes, the body achieves!
“I love taking care of my body, treating it with love and respect. In return it gives me perfect health.”
“I have abundant energy to live a life full of passion and purpose.”
“I am healthy, happy and whole.”
This concept is paramount to a life lived with purpose (taking control) and with belief (in yourself and the journey that is unfolding before you). Don’t leave it all up to chance; tap into your thought processes and guide them where you want to go 🙂